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When envy strikes, try these six things for better mental health

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Validating the feeling, practicing gratitude and expressing ‘sympathetic joy’ can help us understand and accept envy.

Envy is an emotion that emerges when we covet what someone else has, and it can feel uncomfortable.

One of my former patients envied her brother’s successful career. While she was working hard to pay the bills, he was vacationing around the world. “I’m such a terrible person for feeling this way,” she said. “Why can’t I feel happy for my brother?”

I reassured her that envy isn’t a character flaw. Like all emotions, it’s something to notice and validate.

But in extreme cases, this emotion can turn malicious, causing us to bad-mouth the envied person or devalue their success. Perceiving another person as being better off can also fuel this spite and halt empathy, according to one study. And if you’ve ever felt this way, you probably know that envy doesn’t discriminate. It can make us harbor ill feelings even toward people we love and care about.

However, envy doesn’t need to hinder us or our relationships. With a little self-reflection, we can understand and accept our envy, and reduce it by practicing joy-sharing. Here are some ways to get started.

Validate your envy

When you’re hit with a wave of envy, acknowledge it. Merely saying, “I feel envious,” can ease the sting. One study found that labeling our emotions can calm down the limbic system, the part of the brain responsible for regulating our emotions. And when we tend to our negative emotions, we are more likely to feel positive ones such as happiness and empathy.

Treat envy as a messenger

Envying another person’s career, money or happiness can make us feel immature and ashamed. And when this discomfort brews, it’s easy to mistake envy for an enemy. But just because an emotion feels terrible doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad.

Envy is a valuable messenger, and one way to decode its meaning is to answer this question: “What’s at the root of my envy?”

The answer often will reveal your authentic desires. For example, envying a colleague’s raise or a friend’s stellar social circle probably indicates that you want something similar. If that’s the case, ask yourself: “What’s my goal, and what actions can I take to accomplish this?”

While envy can shake up our self-confidence, identifying ways to meet our goals can help us feel empowered.

Show affection

It’s harder to let envy fester when we show affection. For example, one study found that making eye contact when someone shares good news can generate empathy, helping us applaud their success.

The next time you envy a friend, colleague or partner, try making eye contact or offer your loved one a congratulatory hug. Research shows that physical touch can increase levels of oxytocin. Known as the love drug, this hormone produces positive feelings, which promote bonding.

Practice gratitude

Envy can draw our attention to everything that’s lacking in our lives. But this mind set can make us feel small, scared and hopeless. Gratitude can inhibit these uncomfortable feelings.

Focus on the joyful things you have received recently. Start by trying to identify three things. Perhaps it was a compliment from a friend or help from a neighbor. Or it could be a dinner invitation or a chance to embark on a new opportunity.

As you practice this exercise, pay close attention to how it makes you feel. Research shows that gratitude can boost our mood, tighten social relationships and spark joy.

Try sympathetic joy

Feeling joy when good fortune befalls someone else is called “sympathetic joy.” It’s the happiness we feel when a friend crushes a job interview or a loved one accomplishes a goal.

Sympathetic joy motivates us to shower the winner with praise. Not only does this make the other person feel good, but it benefits us as well. Positive emotions are contagious, according to research.

Accept kindness

In my psychotherapy practice, I find that many people are quick to help others, but shy away from asking for support. Often, they are afraid of being needy or worried about coming across as a burden — even to a partner or close friend.

Considering another person’s feelings is thoughtful and empathic. However, when we struggle to accept kindness, we inadvertently cut ourselves off from joy-filled experiences such as being appreciated or cared for.

Kindness benefits both parties. Research shows that it makes the giver feel good, too. In addition, kindness fosters generosity and can make us more resilient to stress.

The next time you envy another person’s victory because you want the same thing, ask them for guidance. There’s a good chance they will be delighted to help. For example, if your work friend landed a dream job that you also wanted, ask for career advice.

When we let others help us, we realize that winning is rarely a zero-sum game. This insight can help us set aside social comparisons. And when this happens, envy doesn’t roar so loudly, making more room for joy.

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Trump’s Envoy Prepares Ukraine War Exit Plan Amid Putin Talks

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Trump’s Russia-Ukraine envoy, Keith Kellogg, is preparing options to end the war. Trump confirms phone calls with Putin, pushing for a quick resolution.

Donald Trump’s direct involvement in brokering a Russia-Ukraine peace deal is a game-changing moment—one that could redefine America’s global power role while undercutting Biden’s foreign policy failures. His envoy, Keith Kellogg, is now engaging NATO allies to craft a roadmap to end the war, with Trump himself confirming private phone calls with Putin.

Unlike the Biden administration’s open-ended military aid strategy, Trump’s realpolitik approach aims to leverage economic deals—notably a $500 million energy and rare-earth mineral pact with Kyiv—in exchange for security guarantees. This signals a seismic shift from an endless proxy war to a negotiated settlement backed by economic incentives.

Yet, Trump’s secretive engagement with Putin raises questions. His refusal to disclose the number of calls suggests a delicate balancing act—appearing tough on Russia while privately securing concessions. Meanwhile, Kyiv faces a hard choice: accept a Trump-brokered deal or risk abandonment as the U.S. pivots to domestic priorities.

With Vice President J.D. Vance set to meet Zelensky in Munich, all eyes are on whether Trump’s art of the deal diplomacy will bring peace—or trigger a new geopolitical storm.

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Somali Elders Apologize to Ruto After Isiolo Heckling Incident

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Somali elders publicly apologize to President Ruto after Isiolo heckling, blaming “outsiders” for the disruption. Pledge unity and support.

The heckling of President William Ruto during his Northeastern tour was an embarrassing political moment—but within days, Somali elders stepped forward to apologize. The Somali Council of Elders, led by Abdulkadir Shariff, distanced their community from the disruptive chants, blaming intoxicated youths allegedly brought in from outside Isiolo.

The political storm erupted when Ruto accused drug dealers of instigating unrest, signaling his government’s hardline stance on the region’s criminal networks. His harsh rhetoric suggests that the administration is willing to crack down, not just on economic grievances, but also on illicit trade fueling local instability.

The swift apology from the elders reveals the deep political calculations at play. The Somali leadership does not want to risk alienation from Ruto’s government, especially after recent concessions on citizenship and livestock trade. This also underscores regional fears—losing presidential favor could mean reduced government investment, weakened influence, and diminished political leverage ahead of 2027.

While the elders’ damage control may soothe tensions, the underlying discontent in Northeastern Kenya remains unresolved. Ruto’s challenge is not just winning political loyalty, but also addressing real economic frustrations that fuel such public outbursts.

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Israel Withdraws from Gaza Corridor as Ceasefire Holds—For Now

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Israel pulls back from the Netzarim corridor, allowing Palestinians to return north. With ceasefire talks stalled, Netanyahu faces pressure to resume the war.

Israel’s withdrawal from the Netzarim corridor marks a strategic shift in the ongoing conflict, but nothing is certain as both sides maneuver for advantage. Hamas, seizing on the moment, claims victory, while Israeli officials remain silent, signaling that the war is far from over.

The 42-day ceasefire—set to expire in early March—hinges on further hostage exchanges and a full Israeli withdrawal. But Netanyahu, under fire from his far-right allies, must decide whether to push forward with negotiations or resume military operations to crush Hamas. Meanwhile, Trump’s radical Gaza proposal—calling for U.S. control over the territory—has sent shockwaves through the region, drawing global condemnation.

With the death toll soaring, the world watches as Israel and Hamas gamble with time. Will Netanyahu extend the truce to bring more hostages home? Or will pressure from hardliners drag Israel back into the fight? The next few weeks could determine the fate of Gaza—and the entire Middle East.

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Al-Shabab Fighters Flee Hiran Battle, Regroup in Mahaday—Somali Forces Mobilize

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Al-Shabab fighters fleeing a deadly battle in Hiran have regrouped near Mahaday district. Somali forces launch urgent operations to prevent further militant buildup.

Al-Shabaab is on the run—but far from defeated. After suffering heavy losses in Hiran, including the deaths of 30 fighters and the capture of three militants, the terror group is regrouping in Mahaday, a strategic district in Middle Shabelle. Local sources report a concerning build-up near the Shabelle River, as militants who fled the battlefield seek to regain strength.

The Somali government, backed by the Hirshabelle administration and Macawisley local forces, has launched rapid military operations to contain the movement. Officials say white foreign fighters were among those killed in the Hiran battle, highlighting the presence of international jihadists in Al-Shabab’s ranks.

With Somali and allied forces tightening the noose, Al-Shabaab faces one of its biggest setbacks in recent years. But the fight is far from over. The terror group is known for tactical retreats—regrouping, rearming, and launching new waves of violence. The battle for Middle Shabelle is now a race against time—either Somali forces crush this regrouping effort, or Al-Shabaab emerges from the shadows to strike again.

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Iran’s Nuclear Crisis: IRGC Pushes Khamenei to Lift Nuclear Weapons Fatwa

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Senior IRGC commanders urge Khamenei to lift nuclear weapons ban, warning Iran faces an existential threat. Could Tehran be on the brink of a nuclear breakthrough?

Iran’s nuclear dilemma has reached a boiling point. Reports indicate that senior commanders within the Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps (IRGC) are pressuring Supreme Leader Ayatollah Khamenei to rescind his fatwa banning nuclear weapons. The argument? Survival.

With the U.S. reinstating its maximum pressure campaign under President Trump, Iran’s leadership is feeling the walls close in. An Iranian official warned: “We have never been this vulnerable, and it may be our last chance to obtain [a nuclear weapon] before it’s too late.” This statement alone suggests Tehran is closer than ever to a nuclear breakout.

For years, Iran has insisted it does not seek nuclear weapons, citing religious and diplomatic constraints. But the internal fractures within the regime tell a different story. The IRGC—the real power behind the throne—views nuclear arms as the only deterrent against Western intervention. If Khamenei relents to their demands, the Middle East could be thrust into an unprecedented crisis, forcing Israel and the U.S. into a preemptive confrontation.

The question now is whether Khamenei will hold his ground or authorize Iran’s final push toward nuclear armament. If the latter happens, the clock on a regional war will start ticking.

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Judge Blocks Musk and Trump Officials from Treasury Payment Systems

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Federal judge issues emergency order restricting Elon Musk and Trump allies from Treasury systems over data security concerns.

A federal judge just slammed the brakes on Elon Musk’s takeover of U.S. financial infrastructure. In a stunning late-night ruling, Judge Paul Engelmayer blocked Musk’s so-called Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE) from accessing the most sensitive Treasury payment systems, citing serious security risks and potential data leaks. This is the latest in a legal firestorm erupting against Trump’s reckless purge of federal oversight.

The ruling is a direct rebuke of Trump’s aggressive government overhaul, which has seen Musk and his allies embedded deep within critical U.S. agencies—unchecked, unvetted, and dangerously close to America’s financial arteries. The Treasury system holds sensitive personal and banking data of millions of Americans, not to mention classified U.S. financial operations. The idea of Musk’s cronies waltzing in and taking control had 19 state attorneys general rushing to court in panic.

Trump’s rapid-fire dismantling of federal agencies is already teetering on the edge of constitutional collapse. From the abrupt USAID shutdown to shocking policy shifts in foreign aid, citizenship laws, and government resignations, his administration is breaking every norm in Washington. The judge’s order doesn’t just halt Musk’s access—it forces the immediate destruction of any data already accessed by DOGE operatives.

This isn’t just about bureaucratic infighting. This is about the security of America’s financial system itself. If Trump and Musk had their way, who would actually be in control? What happens when unchecked billionaires gain access to the backbone of U.S. economic power?

For now, the courts are holding the line. But with Trump’s legal battles mounting and his deep state purge escalating, the real question is: how much longer can Washington withstand the storm?

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House GOP’s Lisa McClain Backs Trump’s “Out-of-the-Box” Leadership

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House Republican Conference Chair Lisa McClain defends Trump’s unconventional leadership, legislative tactics, and late-night Twitter strategy.

Trump’s hard-nosed dealmaking is reshaping the Republican Party, and Lisa McClain is all in. As House GOP Conference Chair, she’s one of the key architects of the party’s messaging machine, and she’s got a clear directive: defend Trump at all costs.

With House Republicans divided between hardline conservatives demanding $2.5 trillion in cuts and moderates trying to hold the line, Trump has stepped in as the ultimate power broker. His five-hour White House war room session wasn’t just about policy—it was a show of dominance. Trump knows what he wants, and McClain is his voice inside the chamber, ensuring his vision isn’t watered down by weak-willed legislators.

For McClain, Trump’s unconventional methods are a feature, not a bug. Whether it’s midnight social media bombshells or radical budget proposals, she insists it’s all part of his “out-of-the-box” genius. The GOP’s strategic future, however, remains a battlefield. Some factions want to go all-in, believing they’ll lose the House in 2026 and must seize the moment. Others argue restraint is key to expanding their majority.

McClain isn’t betting on failure. She’s rallying behind Trump’s vision of a leaner, meaner government—whether or not it costs Republicans in the next election. With Trump back at the helm, compromise is off the table. The only path forward? Total GOP dominance—or total war with the establishment.

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Trump’s DOJ Disbands Corruption, Election Interference Units in War on Cartels

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Trump’s DOJ shifts focus from prosecuting kleptocrats and foreign election interference to a total crackdown on cartels, sparking global alarm.

Trump’s Justice Department just pulled the plug on America’s fight against corruption and election meddling, redirecting its entire arsenal toward a ruthless war on drug cartels. The move, spearheaded by newly appointed Attorney General Pam Bondi, eliminates key units targeting kleptocrats, foreign bribery, and Russian oligarchs while dismantling the Foreign Influence Task Force—an effort once central to countering Russian and Chinese election meddling.

Gone is the Kleptocracy Asset Recovery Initiative, which once hunted down stolen billions from dictators and oligarchs. Task Force KleptoCapture, responsible for enforcing Russian sanctions, is now history. Even the Foreign Corrupt Practices Act unit, which secured massive fines against bribery-ridden corporations, will now focus solely on cases tied to transnational criminal networks. The message is clear: corruption outside cartel-linked cases is no longer a priority.

Bondi’s move aligns with Trump’s long-standing war against what he calls a “weaponized” DOJ. Election integrity groups are in panic mode, warning that dismantling foreign interference investigations leaves U.S. elections exposed to Russian and Chinese meddling. Transparency advocates fear a return to unchecked money laundering and corporate corruption. The global impact? A retreat from America’s anti-kleptocracy leadership, leaving a vacuum for authoritarian regimes and transnational criminals to exploit.

Trump’s DOJ has picked its battlefield. The war on cartels is now priority number one—but at what cost?

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